NFR With a saddened heart I make this post

Discussion in 'Fly Fishing Forum' started by Jerry Daschofsky, Sep 28, 2013.

  1. Jerry Daschofsky Moderator

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    I debated on posting this up here. Kept it private, only a few knew. Then since it went nationwide (and widespread on Facebook), I opted to share this. It's taken a tole on myself and my family. But I didn't want his sacrifice to be unknown.

    Jay Strickland.jpg

    Last weekend was the 4th Annual NW PHWFF 2 Fly event. Saturday is the big day of the event. We launch the boats, then I have the day to do prep for dinner and and relax a bit. Unfortunately, the day was rocked at 130pm. We got the news that my Brother in Law, SPC Joshua "Jay" Strickland, was KIA in a Green on Blue attack in Afghanistan. He was only a week from leaving the FOB, and about 2-3 weeks from coming home. A maneuver he volunteered for, he wasn't supposed to be out there that day. The news floored us. It took all I could to stay focused on Saturday to finish the 2 Fly. My wife and kids were all there in Ellensburg with me. It's been a very tough week. He's come home, and is about to be laid to rest with other warriors in our National Cemetary in Maple Valley.


    At this point, I've been running on very little sleep, and way too many emotions. I've grieved, and still grieve. He was much younger then I, old enough to be my son (though he was my brother in law). We finally got very close during this deployment. We talked non stop, for hours at night (when I should've been sleeping). We spoke fishing, shooting, and life. I took him under my wings, and became a mentor to him. Trying to help him come through some tough spots he encountered along the way. Before he left, he celebrated his 23 birthday. I gave him a card with a custom gift certificate giving him a full weekend fishing. All he had to do was show up and I'd cater him. I grieve over that certificate being unclaimed. My last message from him was that Thursday evening when I was up for initial setup of the 2 Fly. He was excited the silvers were coming in hot and heavy. I regret not loading up my messenger to read and answer it. Yes, I know I couldn't have known, but it doesn't change the fact that I missed speaking to him one last time. He was a goof, a smartass, a typical boasting fisherman. He reminded me a lot of myself at that age, probably why I tried to set his ship on a proper coarse. He was the little brother I never had. I was looking forward to see if my advice would kick in. Seeing how well we fished together. Keep mentoring him. Like anything in life, nothing is guaranteed.

    He came home on Monday. He was welcomed home by my Sister in Law Heather, Jay's twin brother Andrew, and his brother Caleb (a Marine who will escort him back to the NW from Dover).
    Jay Home Angel Flight.jpg
    Jay Angel Flight.jpg

    I spent today fishing the Nisqually. Caught a few salmon tossing the spey on a fast rising river. From advice of a good friend of mine, I said his name as I released each fish. First being on the water, and releasing my sorrows, lifted my spirits. Pain is still there, but healing has begun.

    Rest in Peace soldier. You've served your time. I'll miss you Jay.

    Added note September 29th.

    I've had several messages and emails concerning donations to the family. First, Jay was carrying the extra insurance most people in the military with kids carry. Plus, the standard life insurance. She and the kids, as of right now, are fine financially. They've already received the initial check. I know they'd rather have him then the money, but it is what it is. So thank you for all the concern. What the family needs now are your prayers, thoughts, and time to heal. Thank you.
  2. Danielocean Steelhead Virgin

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    Please accept our condolences from my family to yours. Thank you for posting this as we all need to be reminded of how lucky we are to have brave men, and women represent this country and be willing to make the ultimate sacrifice for freedom as your brother in law did. May he rest in peace. I am heart broken for you, and your family. Please let me know if there is anything you need.
  3. Jason Decker Active Member

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    Jerry, I am very, very sorry to hear about your loss. Thank you for sharing. I'm praying for your family and hope that you find the strength and graced needed for such a tough situation. I also wanted to say THANK YOU to your Bro-in-law for protecting our freedom and THANK YOU to you and your family for your sacrifice. I hope this brings you all closer together.

  4. Theron Active Member

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    I am sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. Wishing your brother-in-law a safe journey home.
  5. Patrick Allen Active Member

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    Jerry, so sorry for you and your families loss. I hope you find the strength to stay strong in this difficult time. My thoughts are with you.

  6. freestoneangler Not to be confused with Freestone

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    Jerry, my thoughts and prayers are with with you and your family. Take some comfort in knowing that the relationship you created with Joshua will provide a lifetime of great memories that will, over time, replace the sorrow you feel now.
  7. flybill Purveyor of fine hackle, wine & cigars!

    So sad for you and your family Jerry! I will keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers. Get out there and fish and remember him. And thank you to him and all his brothers and sisters that protect us and serve! Hang in there and let us know if we can help in anyway.. Bill
  8. Rick LaRiviere Active Member

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    Deepest sympathies to you and all of Jay's family.
  9. Rob Allen Active Member

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    Very Sorry Jerry. will pray for you and your family.
  10. whalenblue Member

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    Please know that there is a big cover of prayer on you and your extended family.
  11. Skysoldier Trout Hunter

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    Jerry there is nothing we can say right now that will truly help, just remember the good times you have had together and know that you and your family are in our prayers.
  12. Jeff Dodd Active Member

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    This is sad to read and my thoughts are with you and Joshua's family and friends.

    Thank you for all the work you do on behalf of the injured veterans.
  13. Bruce Baker Active Member

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    Nothing I can say can help take the pain away. I am so sorry for your loss Jerry.
  14. enlightened Active Member

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    Thinking of you and your family.
  15. Richard Olmstead BigDog

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    Thanks for posting, Jerry. We all grieve a bit when one of our WFF 'family' loses someone close to them.
    Best wishes,
  16. Olive bugger Active Member

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    So very sorry for your family's loss. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
  17. Kenneth Yong Member

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    Jerry, my condolences to you and Joshua's family. Rest assured of my prayers.

  18. skyrise Active Member

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    I will add you & your family to my prayers. Thanks to the Lord above for Joshua's service. May His Comfort and Grace touch your family.
  19. Jim Wallace Smells like low tide

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    My condolences to you and your family, Jerry. Your post sure puts a human face on what might otherwise have just remained a statistic to us. RIP Joshua, Thanks for your sacrifice.
    Keep fishing and releasing your sorrow with every fish.
  20. cabezon Sculpin Enterprises

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    Deepest condolences. We live on through the memories of our family and friends.